We live in a world that expects us to have a very carefully crafted identity. To become successful it is recommended we brand ourselves. To cultivate a specific presence. We objectify, looking at ourselves and create a kind of commodity. We may believe we are expressing and sharing our essence and to some extent we are but the degree to which we try to control other’s perception of us is the degree of unease we will experience.
If we have experienced trauma we also look at ourselves, often with self criticism or self pity, but an overly careful construction of identity can also happen here. It is the flip side of the same coin. We identify ourselves with certain mental constructs to protect ourselves from shame and low self worth– a kind of aggrandisement than can be easily punctured.
When we become stabilised through healing of trauma it is often through self enquiry, the process of looking in. When this is complete our natural tendency is to look out. We are a spirit in a body observing the world. When we are able to observe with the eyes of love, with appreciation and gratitude, we forget our over concentration on ourselves entirely and anxiety decreases or goes. We begin to trust the flow of life.
Meditating at Self Realisation fellowship one day, the organisation set up by Paramahansa Yogananda–the great mystic and world teacher, I heard the voice of Lahiri Mahasaya, the teacher of Sri Yukteswar, who was Yogananda’s teacher. He said, clear as a bell, ‘Be Nothing.’ I knew immediately what he meant for the full transmission came within the words. To finally become Everything, we must first become Nothing. This is not the nothing of low self worth, but the blissful nothingness of no identity. That was the day I began looking out and not at myself.
I just watched the documentary of Louise Hay who is now 90. She really exemplifies this maxim to me. She first healed herself of her violent and sexually abusive childhood in a Christian Science organisation where she learned of affirmations. When three years into it she began to help people on a one-to-one basis, she created a system of connecting physical illness with beliefs, a pioneer 30 years ahead of the now widely accepted and scientifically proven concept, and self published 5000 pamphlets with her findings, which sold out in 2 years. She has put one step in front of another never getting ahead of herself and always present, following the guidance of the moment from that time. For more than 40 years her prayer to help others has been answered a gazillion fold and that book is now printed in 35 languages. From the time she learned about the affirmations in her mid-forties she seemed never to look at herself again, only in, if necessary–for example when she healed herself of vaginal cancer, or out to the world she saw with the eyes of love.
This does not preclude self care or celebration of self or sensual delight in the world’s treasures. Quite the contrary. These happen naturally when we are in the flow of life and love.
I am not nearly as unselfish a person as Louise Hay. She is a marvel to me. I hope I give my full attention to those life puts in front of me and I share my healing methods, the ones Spirit blessed me with to heal myself, in workshops with young and old when asked. I am more of a hermit and a monk. We are all different and I believe in the science of prayer and Violet Flame transmissions for transmuting discord and also Ho’oponnaponna if practised correctly. 20, 10, 5 years ago I would have compared myself to Louise Hay and found myself wanting. I can now look out with the eyes of love and celebrate life for giving us her. Each of us has a unique gift and it’s part of the treasure hunt to find it.
When the great sage and sadhu Chellappan roared to the passing Brahmachari, shaking the bars of his chariot, “Hey! Who are you? There is not one wrong thing! It is as it is! Who knows?” that young soul dissolved in a sea of light. He became Nothing and Everything all at once. He later became the satguru of Sri Lanka, Yogiswami, a Perfected One living in Undivided Truth.
Be still. Look in and seek the Oneness of the undivided Self in the sea of light that emerges when story falls away. Becomes Nothing, anchored in the endless bliss of non-identity. Look out at the manifestation of the undivided Self in myriad forms and become Everything and Everyone and from that place offer your gifts to the world, unattached to outcome. That’s the hard part.
Jung coined the phrase ‘the collective unconscious’ to explain our unity. Nassim Harramein believes he has finally created the mathematics to prove there is a Unified Field. In transcendent moments we can actually experience it.
The very best explanation of Ho-oponopono I have come across:
More on Nassim Harramein, a leading quantum theorist:
Here is a very good explanation of the Violet Flame from Patricia Cota-Robles:
Here is a Violet Flame Invocation from Patricia Cota-Robles:
Here is the documentary on Louise Hay:
Here is more on Paramahansa Yogananda and Self Realisation Fellowship:
Have a blessed day.